Which Marriage Do You Have?
May 23, 2017
What kind of marriage do you have?
There are three kinds of marriages:
- Broken
- Functional
- Thriving
Broken
You've got a broken marriage if there's less fun, trust and love and more fighting, frustration, upset, disappointment, resentment, etc. There's little fun, trust or passion.
Broken marriages result from hoping that your partner and your marriage will magically change, and that invariably leads to things just getting worse.
Most couples wait until their marriage is broken before seeking help, and that's unfortunate because (like a car or house that's been neglected for too long) that's the most difficult time to get things back on tack.
Functional
Your marriage is functional if there's nothing exactly "broken" but also nothing that regularly excites or inspires you. You work, do you chores, handle the kids (if you have them), maybe watch a little TV together and occasionally go out to dinner, probably to the same place over and over again.
Functional marriages result from either getting caught up in routines and responsibilities or getting "beaten down" by one too many setbacks until you're happy just to avoid being in crisis.
WARNING Functional marriages also are the result of fear. That is, being afraid that you can't get what you want and so you shouldn't even try, or (worse) that you don't deserve to have something extraordinary and amazing. Don't fall into this trap!
These are also the most dangerous kind of marriage because things aren't bad enough to risk "rocking the boat" or looking for help.
Thriving
Thriving marriages are inspiring, exciting, supportive and fun! Couples in thriving marriages enjoy each other, prioritize each other, and create amazing lives together.
Thriving couples face the same challenges as functional and broken couples; the difference is that thriving couples recognize that it takes constant nurturing to create and sustain a thriving love.
Thriving couples go out of their way to show affection for each other, to support each other, and to have fun together. Thriving couples recognize that the most fulfilling life and relationship comes from creating a life and legacy together.
Thriving couples share goals and dreams. They don't necessarily agree on everything but they do agree on how they want to contribute to their community or world at large, and they work together to make that impact.
Imagine what it will feel like to wake up every day next to a parner you have a thriving relationship with...
Imagine what it will feel like to go to bed each night next to a partner you have a thriving relationship with...
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